Monday, February 24, 2014

What criticism does to a child.

Wow....this ten year old girl took the words right out of my mouth.

What Criticism Does to a Child: Guest Post by Ella Kampakis

(Following is a post by my 10-year-old daughter that we composed together. These are her thoughts and words, and I served as editor. It was inspired by a conversation we recently had in the car about a reality show and the impact of criticism. Ella is wise beyond her years and has excellent insight on how we parents can help our children meet their potential in a loving, positive manner).
A while back I was at a friend’s house, and we stayed up late watching the show “Dance Moms.” While I really liked their dance competitions, it made me sad that the girls didn’t seem to know they had talent.
I never heard anyone tell them, “Good job” or “I can see you practiced.” All they said was “Work harder,” “That’s awful,” and stuff like that. They never told them they had talent. I can’t speak for those girls, but if that was me on TV I would have felt lost because I thought dancing was my talent, but no one was appreciating it.ella-blog
What I think Abby and the moms should have told those girls is that they were still good and had talent, but they needed to keep working hard and practice. When the girls did work hard and practice, no one noticed. Nobody congratulated them or said, “I’m proud of you. Your hard work paid off.”
The thing about criticism is you remember it a while. Once you get that voice in your head, it’s hard to get it out. You start thinking the voice in your head is right. It makes you want to quit and puts you in an awful mood.
We’re kind of young to take on a lot of criticism because we’re listening to everything right now, and sometimes we don’t know what not to listen to. If we listen to a lot of negative and not enough positive, we doubt ourselves and get scared to try. When we’re scared to try something we love, we may look for other talents that don’t really fit us and may not make us the person we’re meant to be.
What I want those girls on “Dance Moms” and other kids my age to know is that if you love something, stick with it even if some people don’t fully believe in you. If you believe in yourself you can achieve great things. To get better you need some feedback, but learn to separate the criticism that can help you from the kind that tries to bring you down.
Everybody has a gift, and when you share your gift you inspire others to share their gift, too. Can you imagine how happy our world would be if everyone was sharing their gift?

Tuesday, February 18, 2014

Before & After

Julia's two front teeth grew in with staining on them.  I've asked numerous dentists about what may have caused this and none of them have been able to give me an exact reason why.  It could have been caused by some mouth trauma when she was little or possibly it was just the way her teeth developed.  It was never really an issue until recently when Julia had become more sensitive to it. I decided it was time to see if we could improve her smile.  So today I took her in for her first treatment.

This is before...

and this is after...

Wow!!!  She has a treatment to do at home for the next two weeks and then she'll go back in for another treatment.  It looks so much better already!!!  If I knew it was going to be this easy, I would have done it a long time ago.  Oh my pretty girl.  : )

Thursday, February 13, 2014

Crazy cool app!

I just discovered this new app for my iPhone and I love it!!!   I took some of my favorite photos on my phone and changed them over to this...

Wow!!  Very cool if you ask me!

Tuesday, February 11, 2014

Tears of an Angel

Julia's getting ready to compete her solo for the first time this weekend...

I'm so excited...and a little see her on the stage!

Monday, February 10, 2014

Do you want to build a snowman?

Here's another cute video Julia made...this time with her friend was so cute it made me cry...

Friday, February 07, 2014


Gianna brought this home from school yesterday...

I love how she named her picture "Dog". So cute.

Thursday, February 06, 2014

Nicholas' report card

Look at this!!!  He went up in all his subjects and got all A's and two B+'s!!  So proud of our boy!!

Wednesday, February 05, 2014


We had yet another snow day here today.  The third one this school year!  So we'll be in school until the last week of June...again.

Julia invited her friend, Kailey, over to play today and they made this video.  It's what the girls do these days. The song is from "Frozen" (although they made it sound weird) which is Julia's favorite movie and soundtrack right now.  All her friends love it too.  I think this video is very cute and it puts a smile on my face every time I watch it.  I love all of Julia's friends...

Monday, February 03, 2014


This girl hates taking medicine...

She had been sick with cold like symptoms for over 18 days.  So I decided it was time to see a doctor.  She was completely worn down with circles under her eyes from restless sleeping, sore throats, laryngitis, and on and on.  They diagnosed her with a sinus infection.  She's now on Amoxicillin twice a day for ten days. Oh boy.  Is this fun.  Not.  She despises medicine.  It takes her at least ten minutes every time she has to take just 2 teaspoons of the pink stuff.  Here's her routine. She puts a pile of crackers in front of her along with a glass of water. She'll take a teansy weansy sip of the medicine, then quickly she bites her cracker and then washes it down with water.  Repeat.  Repeat.  Repeat.  Repeat.  You get the picture.