A stream

I love this one.  I often take Louise Hay's advice from this wonderful book and visualize a stream.  I put my negative thoughts, feelings and even people (haha) in the stream and watch them all float away from me.  Try it!  It really works!!

Worry less

Motherhood

Motherhood is a choice you make everyday

To put someone else's happiness and well-being ahead of your own

To teach the hard lessons

To do the right thing even when you're not sure what the right thing is

And to forgive yourself

Over and over again

For doing everything wrong 

Six Flags

Me and another mom took Julia and her friends to Six Flags yesterday...in the miserable 100 degree heat!!  It wasn't pleasant walking around the park...but the water park was really nice!  We hung out there for a few hours mid-day. 

There was the most gorgeous sunset last night...

We stopped for a late night dinner on the way home.  We were all sweaty, exhausted and starving by then...

As much as I love spending time with Julia and her friends...just thinking about how she'll be able to drive herself there next summer is a relief!  At first the thought of it made me sad...but after ten hours walking around in the blazing heat, carrying all their bags and waiting patiently for hours and hours for them to go on all the rides...it actually sounds pretty darn good to me!!  I can always do lots of other things with them, right?  Right!!  : )   

Profound

I read this post at Clover Lane and it hit so close to home.  She is a breast cancer survivor and this post is so profound I just have to share.  She truly knows what's important in life.

In Sarah's words...

1. Pretty much anything you read, or do, isn't going to make more of a difference in how your kids "turn out", than you having an optimistic, joyous outlook on life and spreading that joy and optimism to them.  Also-showing love in many ways every day.  Making sure you spend time with them and use mostly positive words-making them feel loved.

2. FAMILY-it's all about what you do here in this house.  That will be the difference in the world-"Let everyone sweep in front of his own door, and the whole world will be clean" (Goethe).  There are service lessons, all kinds of lessons, right here.  No amount of work anywhere else is going to make the difference as what happens in your own home.

3. Love your "job".  Find ways to love it more-even the stuff you don't like.  Find a way to cook that is easy and serves your family and YOU well and makes it less of a chore.  Find a laundry system that works for everyone, so you don't grow resentful.  Find joy in caring for your home and family, using the talents God has given you.  Manage well, have systems that work so you can enjoy your work, and your days.

4. Worry-it's such a waste.  Explore the worry-it's based on fear.  Worry sucks joy, it's heavy to carry, it clouds thinking.  Meet it head on.  If that means a conversation you need to have with a teen, or a spouse or anyone, have it.  It usually also means time needs to be spent in prayer.  Prayer relieves worry, centers you and builds strength.

5. It's not complicated to know what the "right" thing is.  There is so much talk, argument, debate, fear-mongering in this culture.  The truth is the deepest, purest core of nature-what is right.  The culture is crazy right now.  It's backwards. 

6.  Which means your need to be on the hunt for job, for that pure truth, and give it the attention it is due. Concentrate on the joy, concentrate on the good.  You can switch everything around to find the good when showing the kids that it exists-using compassion and love and hope-remember the truth is obvious this way.  Dwell on the good, find it, point it out.  "Finally, brethren, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is of good repute, if there is any excellence and if anything worthy of praise, dwell on these things."  

7. Be careful of where and how you spend your time.  If you surround yourself with negativity, you will feel negative.  If you surround yourself with positivity, you will find joy.

8. Enjoyment-find the things you enjoy doing and do them.  Life goes so fast-the little things that might drive you crazy now with a busy family life-one day you will look back with the fondest of memories and laugh.  Remember that!

ENJOY LIFE.

After I read what I had written, I was thinking, what if some physician told me I had one year to live? Not to live sickly, but just to live.  One year.  Period.  How would I truly wish to spend the next 365 days? Stressed?  No.  Worrying?  No.  Going on cruises, traveling the world, seeing this and that, experiencing everything?  No.  Not for me.  

I would spend more time praying and going to Church and reading the Bible. 

I would take care of myself so I would feel good every day-I wouldn't waste time with tasteless garbage food-I'd eat apples off the trees and strawberries off the fields like I did growing up-I would eat real food.  I would get enough sleep so I could spend every day full of energy.  I would go outside every day and listen to the birds in the morning in spring, and the crickets and cicadas at night in the summer and take long walks on the crunchy leaves in fall and watch the sunsets in the winter down by the river.

I wouldn't waste time on the negative-stupid politics, stupid gossip, stupid complaining, the internet and almost all media in general.  The news, blah!  I wouldn't want one bit of it.  It's not reality, it's not the present, it's not what life is made of, it's what drains life's energy, drains the soul.

I would spend more time with my parents, because they are truly the most admirable people, and hold a wealth of knowledge about life that I need and want to know.

I would want to spend every day with my husband and children.  Staring into their faces and soaking them up and truly truly just enjoying my life here at home.  

Having as many of those little moments, when I stopped living logistically, and just talked with my teenage daughter about life, listened to my older boys funny stories, or thoughts about this or that, listening listening listening, and played ball or games, or in the snow, or outside with my little boys, and kissed the face off the "baby".

What is stopping me from doing this NOW?  Nothing.  NOTHING.  There is no excuse!  I have a husband who works hard to provide for our family, my days, my hours, my minutes, are mine, I am doing what I love, there is NO job on earth I would ever love as much as the job as mother, so...

...what gets in the way of how I'd really like to live my life?

It reminds me of this Bible verse, I am NO expert in the Bible, or Catholicism, or Christianity, or anything (well, maybe babies) but this verse just strikes a chord with me:

"Lay not up for yourselves treasures upon earth, where moth and rust doth corrupt, and where thieves break through and steal, but lay up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where neither moth nor rust doth corrupt, and where thieves do not break through nor steal; for where your treasure is, there will your heart be also. 

The lamp of the body is the eye; if, therefore, thine eye be healthy, thy whole body shall be full of light. But if thine eye be evil, thy whole body shall be full of darkness. 

If, therefore, the light that is in thee be darkness, how great is that darkness! No man can serve two masters; for either he will hate the one, and love the other; or else he will hold to the one, and despise the other. Ye cannot serve God and money."

Do I take the time to center myself every day and remind myself of all that is joyful?  Do I let myself fall into negativity too often?  Do I take care of my body, where my soul is housed, so I feel good, mentally, physically and emotionally, every day and can therefore enjoy my days?  Do I get distracted by "earthly treasures"-what are my preoccupations that take me away from being present every day?

Choose happy

Hockey

Encouragement

Bay State Summer Games

Nicholas played in the Bay State summer games hockey tournament this past weekend.  He was very disappointed in himself that he didn't play his best.  It's hard being the goalie.  Never an easy job.

Starpower Nationals

This year only a few routines went to Nationals...and that made it especially nice!!

How Great Thou Art placed 2nd in a very hard category...

Tango was also against some really tough competition!  The girls won 1st place, best choreography, 1st place in the Battle and the Victory Cup in the 12-14 age group!!!

Titanic won 1st place, 1st place in the Battle and the Victory Cup in the 15-19 age category!!!

Unite didn't fare as well and only placed 8th...but it is one of my favorite dances this year...

 It was dress up as a cow day at Chick-fil-A for free food!

Julia is recovering nicely from mono thank goodness!  She was a little shaky the first day doing two routines but bounced back pretty quickly for day two.  We both decided it was best for her not to do her solo.  I'll always wonder how she would have done but I think it was a good decision to end the year on a good note just in case it didn't go well.

And that's a wrap for dance 2019!!  The girls and I had a lot of fun this week! I'll post the winning videos as soon as I have them!

Titanic winning the Battle...

Tango winning the Battle...

Feeling better

I'd say someone is feeling A LOT better now...

4th of July

We started the 4th of July weekend with fireworks in Attleboro...then a cookout on the 4th at our house with some neighborhood friends...and now we're just going to relax for the rest of the looong weekend. I love when the 4th lands on a Thursday!