I read this post at
Clover Lane and it hit so close to home. She is a breast cancer survivor and this post is so profound I just have to share. She truly knows what's important in life.
In Sarah's words...
1. Pretty much anything you read, or do, isn't
going to make more of a difference in how your kids "turn out", than you
having an optimistic, joyous outlook on life and spreading that joy and
optimism to them. Also-showing love in many ways every day. Making
sure you spend time with them and use mostly positive words-making them feel
loved.
2. FAMILY-it's all about what you do here in
this house. That will be the difference in the world-"Let everyone
sweep in front of his own door, and the whole world will be clean"
(Goethe). There are service lessons, all kinds of lessons, right here.
No amount of work anywhere else is going to make the difference as what
happens in your own home.
3. Love your "job". Find ways to
love it more-even the stuff you don't like. Find a way to cook that is
easy and serves your family and YOU well and makes it less of a chore.
Find a laundry system that works for everyone, so you don't grow
resentful. Find joy in caring for your home and family, using the talents
God has given you. Manage well, have systems that work so you can enjoy
your work, and your days.
4. Worry-it's such a waste. Explore the
worry-it's based on fear. Worry sucks joy, it's heavy to carry, it clouds
thinking. Meet it head on. If that means a conversation you need to
have with a teen, or a spouse or anyone, have it. It usually also means
time needs to be spent in prayer. Prayer relieves worry, centers you and
builds strength.
5. It's not complicated to know what the
"right" thing is. There is so much talk, argument, debate,
fear-mongering in this culture. The truth is the deepest, purest core of
nature-what is right. The culture is crazy right now. It's
backwards.
6. Which means your need to be on the hunt
for job, for that pure truth, and give it the attention it is due.
Concentrate on the joy, concentrate on the good. You can switch
everything around to find the good when showing the kids that it exists-using
compassion and love and hope-remember the truth is obvious this way. Dwell
on the good, find it, point it out. "Finally, brethren, whatever is true, whatever is honorable,
whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is of good
repute, if there is any excellence and if anything worthy of praise, dwell on
these things."
7. Be
careful of where and how you spend your time. If you surround yourself
with negativity, you will feel negative. If you surround yourself with
positivity, you will find joy.
8.
Enjoyment-find the things you enjoy doing and do them. Life goes so
fast-the little things that might drive you crazy now with a busy family
life-one day you will look back with the fondest of memories and laugh.
Remember that!
ENJOY
LIFE.
After
I read what I had written, I was thinking, what if some physician told me I had
one year to live? Not to live sickly, but just to live. One year.
Period. How would I truly wish to spend the next 365 days? Stressed? No. Worrying? No. Going on cruises,
traveling the world, seeing this and that, experiencing everything? No.
Not for me.
I
would spend more time praying and going to Church and reading the Bible.
I
would take care of myself so I would feel good every day-I wouldn't waste time
with tasteless garbage food-I'd eat apples off the trees and strawberries off
the fields like I did growing up-I would eat real food. I would get
enough sleep so I could spend every day full of energy. I would go outside every day and listen to the birds in the
morning in spring, and the crickets and cicadas at night in the summer and take
long walks on the crunchy leaves in fall and watch the sunsets in the winter
down by the river.
I
wouldn't waste time on the negative-stupid politics, stupid gossip, stupid
complaining, the internet and almost all media in general. The news,
blah! I wouldn't want one bit of it. It's not reality, it's not the
present, it's not what life is made of, it's what drains life's energy, drains
the soul.
I
would spend more time with my parents, because they are truly the most
admirable people, and hold a wealth of knowledge about life that I need and
want to know.
I
would want to spend every day with my husband and children. Staring into
their faces and soaking them up and truly truly just enjoying my life here at
home.
Having
as many of those little moments, when I stopped living logistically, and just
talked with my teenage daughter about life, listened to my older boys funny
stories, or thoughts about this or that, listening listening listening, and
played ball or games, or in the snow, or outside with my little boys, and
kissed the face off the "baby".
What
is stopping me from doing this NOW? Nothing. NOTHING. There
is no excuse! I have a husband who works hard to provide for our family,
my days, my hours, my minutes, are mine, I am doing what I love, there is NO
job on earth I would ever love as much as the job as mother, so...
...what
gets in the way of how I'd really like to live my life?
It
reminds me of this Bible verse, I am NO expert in the Bible, or Catholicism, or
Christianity, or anything (well, maybe babies) but this verse just strikes a
chord with me:
"Lay not up for
yourselves treasures upon earth, where moth and rust doth corrupt, and where
thieves break through and steal, but lay up for yourselves treasures in heaven,
where neither moth nor rust doth corrupt, and where thieves do not break
through nor steal; for where your treasure is, there will your heart be
also.
The lamp of the body is
the eye; if, therefore, thine eye be healthy, thy whole body shall be full of
light. But if thine eye be evil, thy whole body shall be full of
darkness.
If, therefore, the light
that is in thee be darkness, how great is that darkness! No man can
serve two masters; for either he will hate the one, and love the other; or
else he will hold to the one, and despise the other. Ye cannot serve God and
money."
Do I take the time to
center myself every day and remind myself of all that is joyful? Do I let
myself fall into negativity too often? Do I take care of my body, where
my soul is housed, so I feel good, mentally, physically and emotionally, every
day and can therefore enjoy my days? Do I get distracted by "earthly
treasures"-what are my preoccupations that take me away from being present
every day?
