Oh Middle School. How I despise thee right now. It can be such a difficult time for kids...and we have two middle schoolers with one more on the way there next year. I remember all too well how hard it could be. Not really knowing which group you fit into...not knowing who your friends really were...desperately wanting to look like all the pretty cool girls...wear the same clothes, shoes and hairstyles as them. I remember moving from lunch table to lunch table until I found a group of friends that I could have fun with. Girls who didn't ignore me or turn their back on me as if I wasn't even there. Yes, that happened to me.
Nicholas is having an exceptionally hard time right now trying to fit in and find his way through middle school. It has been a very painful process to witness because he is my heart and soul. And when he is hurting...I am hurting. I trust though that life is unfolding as it should for him. He is learning life lessons and hopefully growing from them. I know that he is a wonderful, loving, bright young man and he will be just fine. I have faith that he will find his way. It may take some time getting there but he will get there. He will find good friends who will have his back and want to be with him because of who he is.
Oh my handsome boy. Kids will never change. There will always be mean ones...there will always be ones who tease...there will always be ones who exclude. It is so different these days with social media. Back when I was in middle school and high school you may just have heard about a party or get together that you were excluded from but now you can actually see it on Instagram, Facebook or Snap-chat. It's so "in your face" now and can be incredibly hurtful. And now you don't just hear rumors about what people think of you...you see it in writing...for ALL to see and read.
I have a voice within me saying "focus on family". Don't let the outside negativity of childish middle school behavior seep into our home. Home is where he will feel safe, loved and cared for. We will continue to teach him and mold him and guide him.
I am very excited about Nicholas' future! I know there is a lot in store for him. I'm super excited about the high school he has chosen to attend next year. I know it will be a fresh new start for him. He just needs to hang in there. These middle school days are almost over. I never thought I would be happy to see this chapter end for him but boy oh boy I am counting the days.